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As counterintuitive, sorrowful, and heart-wrenching as it truly is and genuinely has become ;yet, It is glaringly self-evident, self-explanatory, and obvious that kindness, compassion, and empathy nowadays (always have been by the way, but now it is more noticeable than ever) have become like an open invitation for other people to come and take advantage and abuse us whenever we consider extending a helping hand to someone or reach out to be there for somebody to be of assistance when they are in desperate need of such outside support. It is sort of strange, is.

it not?? A compassionate empath and a good Samaritan is often disrespected, undervalued, and depreciated and very rarely does he ever receives the due respect and love that others are ought to owe him. Why ?? It is because we have been indoctrinated and programmed to think and believe beyond the shadow of a doubt -except for a very few people — that consideration of other people's feelings and emotions is well — weakness, while cruelty, brutality and cold-heartedness is unquestioningly an unquestionable form and manifestation of power and strength. Press enter or click to view image in full size.

Photo by Ezequiel Garrido on Unsplash People scarcely reciprocate the help they are on the receiving end of when the tide changes and the tables are turned and the giver becomes the asker and the sometime receiver gets to be the prospective helper. I am just wondering and questioning why that would be the modus operandi for the majority of us. How much rotten and corrupted to the core have we become to function like emotionless automatons??! We are in a peculiar time indeed that being genuine,.

trustworthy, and straightforward is no longer just a virtue, but it has also become a liability, subjecting its owner to all types disappointments and frustrations. People are almost always self-centered and self-serving and the moment they milk you dry for any favors, or after getting their business done, or their interest served they will forget about you, throwing you into metaphorical and figurative obscurity. Gone are the days when people will get • to ask for your help but simultaneously now you for who you are and appreciate the-harder- to- find-than gem characters and qualities that someone could possess. It is about interest and who is going to serve it best, It does not matter what concessions or compromises I will acquiesce to as long as the mission is.

completed. It is truly a disfigured world whose capitalistic and materialistic foundation with slogans like "money talks" is a surefire suspect and culprit in transforming the overwhelming majority of mankind into egotistical, self-absorbed, and selfish robots where all means justify the end, people who are willing and ready to forsake and trample upon anything and anyone to achieve their goals. "Beware that, when fighting monsters, you yourself do not become a monster... for when you gaze long into the abyss. The abyss gazes also into you." So, how can we work out such a • timeless and eternal existential dilemma and crisis of existence??! Certainly we are not going to undergo a moral shift and turnaround and start acting in an ungrateful, unappreciative,.

and thoughtless manner like the rest of the majority of people we face, then we are going to lose ourselves in the process and become a carbon copy of those once detested and despised by us and Friedrich W. Nietzsche's famous quote and becoming a living example of what Nietzsche warned and cautioned against. Or alternatively we can simply double down on being a paragon of unrequited and unreturned sacrifice, selflessness, and giving and in the meantime we should ready ourselves for any lack of mutual reimbursement, anticipating absolute nothing in return for all we would invest in our relationship with other people which I would contend and presume that would be largely difficult given the rarity of such saintly, monastic, and austere disposition in us.

now. "A number of porcupines huddled together for warmth on a cold day in winter; but, as they began to prick one another with their quills, they were obliged to disperse. However the cold drove them together again, when just the same thing happened. At last, after many turns of huddling and dispersing, they discovered that they would be best off by remaining at a little distance from one another. In the same way the need of society drives the human porcupines together, only to be mutually repelled by the many prickly and disagreeable qualities of their nature. The moderate distance which they at last discover to be the only tolerable condition of intercourse, is the code of politeness and fine manners; and those who transgress it are roughly told — in the English phrase — to keep their distance. By.

this arrangement the mutual need of warmth is only very moderately satisfied; but then people do not get pricked. A man who has some heat in himself prefers to remain outside, where he will neither prick other people nor get pricked himself." Press enter or click to view image in full size Arthur Schopenhauer, the great • melancholic and contemplating 1 9th century German philosopher, offered a rather practical course of action and an actionable approach to deal with other people summarized in the hedgehog's dilemma which states that getting too.

close to other people and wearing your heart on your sleeves for anyone to see and steal is such a miscalculated and poorly thought-of gamble ;henceforth, it would be better for all parties involved to keep a safe distance from one another and not to bridge that gap and chasm for our own safety as the saying goes" the moon looks more beautiful from afar". Keeping our emotions in check and not getting carried over by them is a good starter; additionally, offering service, advice, and help in a rational manner to those truly needing it and not at our expense would guide us in the right direction and save our energy; we should also expect nothing in return for our service from anyone, and we ought not to invest heavily in a relationship with anybody without anticipating in.

advance that things could go sour and take a turn for the worse and that way we are going to be liberated from the "debt" they owe us and will be spared a lot of frustrations and disappointments down the road ; and lastly whenever we are asked to help, we should help, even those who seem ethically and morally undeserving and unworthy of any helping hand, we do not have to sacrifice our humanity at the altar of the ingratitude of those who chose to behave contrary to our nature but on the condition that when we are asked of favors we should always get our guiding intuition and thinking involved in ascertaining the genuineness and authenticity of the help requested and whether we are being abused and never rely solely on our unreliably fluctuating emotions because.

sometimes the road to hell is littered with good intentions.