What you fear? 1) Fear of loneliness. 2) Fear of Death. 3) Fear of Public speaking When communication is merely about conveying information, it becomes mechanical and impersonal. But when it is about connecting, it becomes engaging, meaningful, and transformative. Example 1: Workplace Communication Conveying: A manager sends an email to the team:"The deadline for the project is Friday. Please submit your reports by 5 PM." Connecting: The same manager communicates with empathy and encouragement:"I appreciate everyone’s hard work on this project! The deadline is Friday at 5 PM. Let me know if you need any support to ensure a smooth submission. Thanks for your efforts!" 👉 The second message acknowledges the team’s effort and invites open communication, making employees feel valued and connected. If you speak, you need this session. If you don’t speak, you need it even more. What's the difference between public speaking and presentation skills? Public speaking: happens anytime you speak with an audience of one or more people with some purpose. A motivational speaker inspiring a crowd, a politician giving a campaign speech, or a comedian performing a stand-up routine. Example: TED talk, political speech. A presentation can be inspiring. A speech can be informative. Every time you communicate, you have an opportunity to influence others and make an impact. Example: A business executive presenting quarterly results to stakeholders, a student defending a research project, or a salesperson pitching a product to clients
Panic, embarrassed, exposed. 85% of people say they are nervous while speaking and I think remaining 15% are lying. Story school elocution competition. When we speak in front of others, we risk that status. People are judging and assessing us. It is as if your life is literally on the line. Just because this is ingrained in us does not mean we can’t manage our nerves. There will always be a situation that can make us nervous, but we can learn to manage our anxiety, so it doesn’t manage us Let me explain: We have all watched a nervous speaker. Most of us feel bad for them. Some of us begin to experience what I call secondhand anxiety…we get nervous because the presenter is nervous. We’re distracted and can’t focus on the speaker’s message. So, as a speaker, reducing anxiety also helps our audience by allowing them to focus on us and our message and not our anxiety and their reaction to it.
How do you create that same comfort zone when you’re giving a ‘formal’ speech or presentation? YAM formula You – Start with a personal touch or engaging hook. Audience – Relate the topic to their interests, problems, or goals. Message – Clearly deliver the main takeaway in a simple, impactful way. When you learn a skill, you develop awareness. As you practice that skill, you develop mastery With mastery comes confidence With confidence comes a sense of control Having a sense of control reduces fear.
Imagine receiving a beautifully wrapped package. It has expensive paper and tied with shiny ribbon. Each edge is perfectly creased. Its almost too beautiful to open. The packaging is a great work of art. Now imagine that you open the gift. Inside is a book that you long wished for. But the pages are yellow and worn. The outside cover is dark grey with no title. It has a scratch on the front. Some of the pages are missing. Disappointing, isn’t it? You had high expectations based on the initial impression of the outside wrapping. Speaker with all style and no substance: A speaker who has "all style and no substance" is someone who delivers a speech with confidence, energy, and charisma—but lacks meaningful content or depth. Their delivery might be engaging, but the audience walks away without any real value or actionable takeaways.
Anyone who has done any of these 4 activities: Singing. Dancing. Acting. Played a sport = All of these have a specific way to conduct. Either its right or wrong. We carry these Right or Wrong into our communication. There is no right way to communicate. There are better and worse ways but ‘no one right way’. Its not a performance. Terry Borton’s Reflective Model What: describe the event (Identify). Had a SV which did not go well. What happened. Who was involved. When did it happen. Where did it happen. How did it happen. So what: Analyse the event and make sense of the implications (Understanding). How did we feel about the situation. What were our emotions in response to it. Are there any implications for us personally/professionally. How will this affect our relationships with those involved. Did anything in particular trigger these emotions in me. Now What: Anticipate future practice based on what was learned (Planning). What steps should we take to improve this situation. How can we move forward positively. Are there any necessary actions/changes. Is there anything we should do/consider before taking action. How can we prevent something like this from happening again. Thank you for watching this video.